CLING TO A POSITIVE PERSPECTIVE
Todd Dewett | January 9, 2020
Happy New Year! It’s 2020 and I want you to be very successful. To help facilitate that outcome, there are many things I might share. Here is the one thing that I think is the most important: clinging to a positive perspective. There is a reason this is one of the oldest and most common bits of self-improvement advice.
However, here’s the part that you almost never hear: the more you achieve and the more you strive for achievement, the more this rule increases in importance. When you take risks, stretch and grow, and chase dreams, you’ll win some and lose some. Overall, you’ll lose more often than all of the people who play it safe in life.
So, be prepared to deal with it. When setbacks and ugly challenges happen, admit it, learn something, laugh about it, and move on! Don’t dwell on it. These things don’t define you! Consider me as an example. Have you ever heard me talk about any of the following?
Shooting on the wrong goal. Fifth grade. We needed a bucket, or we risked losing the game. I got the pass and shot the layup – on the wrong goal.
Flunking college algebra freshman year. It could blame the instructor’s thick German accent, but the truth is I don’t like Algebra and didn’t study enough.
Writing not one, but two, very unreadable novels. They were fun to write, but not so fun to read. Just ask my ex-wife. She loved me enough to be honest…
Failing to get the job at Procter & Gamble. I was a newly minted MBA. I really wanted to join their team. They gave me a million tests – and decided to pass.
Finding out I had the lowest GMAT score in my doctoral program. It didn’t matter that my score was in the 92nd percentile… it was the worst score in the building!
Starting an online video business that failed. It was a very public setback and cost me a lot of money. Welcome to entrepreneurship.
No – you very likely have not heard me talk about these things. I do talk and write about failure and learning and may have mentioned one or more of these at some point, but they are not my focus. They are not the things from which I derive confidence. My confidence comes from knowing I’m better than those moments.
I always cling to a positive perspective. I am bigger than that list (and the many other mistakes and imperfections I could have mentioned). I am special because I chose to work hard and grow beyond that list.
Sure, doubts still happen. Fear is still real. So, how do I deal with them? I look in the mirror and remind myself that I’ve written books that many people adore, created courses that millions of professionals love, and stormed the stage to inspire thousands of audiences to realize that more is possible!
A positive perspective is the essential mental state you have to take with you every time you face a new challenge. Acknowledge difficulties, envision success, move forward. Repeat. That’s a pretty good formula for success.
How about you? What will you say the next time you look in the mirror to remind yourself that you are super valuable, utterly capable, and definitely on the brink of the next big success?
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