RULES TO LIVE BY
Todd Dewett | June 1, 2021
I do enjoy a good Top 10 list! Below are ten rules that help guide me. Though I love to write, this one was tough because there were many more I wanted to include. How about you? Please comment and tell me what you would add.
1. Be authentic. We all filter, but should likely filter less. The more real you are, the better you are understood, and the faster you find out how others truly feel about you. They all won’t love you – and that’s okay! You’re looking for the ones who get the real you.
2. Don’t over-indulge. Everything in moderation! It’s important to acknowledge that too much of some things can be a problem. For the sake of your mental state, relationships, and career, be mindful of how much you indulge in certain things you enjoy.
3. Create positivity. Don’t wait for it to happen randomly. Be thoughtful about with whom you interact and the behaviors and activities you choose. Most of us need to cut down on those things contributing negativity while increasing those that add positivity.
4. Chase purpose. I appreciate paychecks. They help us survive. But purpose helps us achieve and feel meaning in life. What’s your purpose? Is it to help others, to seek attention, health, wealth, a thriving family? Ultimate fulfillment requires purpose.
5. Don’t believe the simple narrative. Most issues in life are not black and white. Real meaning and understanding require you to question your first reaction, look deeper – past the simple narrative, to seek truth, whether you like it or not.
6. Embrace help broadly. First for you: look, you don’t know it all, and that’s okay. Seek help in order to avoid spinning your wheels. It’s human, we all need to do it. For them, be kind and return the favor. Seek regular opportunities to be helpful to others.
7. Stay productive. Work hard! There is beauty in working hard and making progress. Sure, we all have different advantages and disadvantages, but in this, we are the same: we can all make the choice to work our butts off! Hard work very often trumps IQ.
8. Remember gratitude. Your hard work might be the biggest explanation for your success, but there are other factors. You were born with certain gifts, many people helped you along the way, and don’t forget luck. So, find ways to show real gratitude.
9. Forgive! Are you perfect? No, me neither. That’s the main reason we have to be forgiving. Others put up with us and all of our shortcomings and mistakes, right? We should return the favor. Forgive them.
10. Try things! Break ruts and routines in your life by trying new things. New ways to work, new food, new hobbies – try! It helps your brain function, gives you more perspective, and makes you a better decision-maker. And it’s free – try stuff!
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I am sometimes asked what leadership all boils down to. Well, if you can only remember three things, here is my advice. I first wrote about these in The Little Black Book of Leadership (https://amzn.to/3fTSbZD).
Reduce ambiguity: in all you say, write, or do help people understand more, not less. Communication is for reducing cloudiness, so be mindful of whether or not you’re adding clarity. If they are confused, that’s on you!
Be fair: that means providing a baseline of positivity, clarity of explanations, useful resources, and supportiveness for all employees. It’s not about equal outcomes – that depends on performance – but everyone deserves equal opportunity to take their best shot.
Stay positive: a foundation of positive emotions is fuel for so many good things at work: more helping behaviors, less unproductive conflict, stronger productivity, more creativity. As a leader you set the ceiling for the experience of positive emotions – so try to raise the bar!
Until next time – stay safe, go learn something, maybe help someone, or at least do something interesting!
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